we grew up when we learned it

The secret of outmanoeuvring doesn’t lie in criticism.

But performing better than your opponent.

Talent and effort speak for itself.

Best people never care for being the best…


We don’t need to be flawless

We don’t need to be the best

We will succeed as we are

We will celebrate this fest


Growing up is necessary at all stages of life.

As we grow up we learn that our self worth isn’t placed in others hands. They have their rights on their lives, what they want to be and it’s no skin off our nose. Our abilities are not chosen by someone else. When someone says you can’t do something, doesn’t it suggest that this person finds the job difficult or impossible? You will realise that most of the time you can do it if you believe in yourself. At the least, you will learn a few precious lessons.

We know we grew up when we began to discern between ones who belittle, block and blame and ones who stick by you but don’t claw at you, who care, assist our growth and gently nudge ahead. We learn to discern between people in the society who jeopardise you, want you to be dependent on them and those who train you how to bust the blocks just by being in their skin, how to move ahead by being better. We learned to make better choices. We grew up choosing what is worth our energy, by listening to ourself – what makes us happy and what never does. We learned to listen to people to know about them. And we stopped comparing our flaws and imperfections. And it’s beautiful to grow, to keep growing and flowing. The best people are those who don’t force or demand you to be better, they quietly do better and thus teach efficiently.

All these are only the positive side of growth.

Published by Smita Ray

Smita Ray is a mother of two lovely kids and hails from the northeastern town of India Gorakhpur. Her perpetual displeasure arising from the hypocrisy in the society underneath the semblance of religion, culture as well as the conditioning for compliance urged her to put down the impressions in her mind. In her spare time, she likes to have some culinary adventures with her kids.

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